Well, you’re not alone.
Loads of people, no matter how much they’ve achieved, struggle with this weird habit of self-sabotage.
Acknowledge that behaviour change is hard and recognize that everybody has self-sabotaging patterns.
It’s not just you.
Acknowledging The Difficulty Of Change
So, step one:
Know it’s hard, accept the challenge, and get ready to break those old patterns!
- Embrace the Uncomfortable: Know that discomfort is part of the journey. It’s like trudging through the icy field. Embrace it; it means you’re on the right track.
- Question Your Stories: When thoughts of quitting or self-doubt creep in, ask yourself, “What’s the story I’m telling myself?” Challenge those thoughts – are they real, or is it just your brain resisting change?
- Curiosity Over Judgment: Be curious about your actions. Instead of beating yourself up, ask why you’re doing what you’re doing. Curiosity shifts your mindset and interrupts self-sabotage.
The antidote to self-sabotage is cultivating a sense of curiosity.
Identifying Self-Sabotaging Patterns
- Self-reflection: Take a moment to think about your actions. Identify consistent patterns. Are you often stuck in the quest for perfection or caught up in procrastination? Recognize that pattern.
- Journaling: Put it on paper. When do these habits surface? Is it during stress or when you face a challenging task? Documenting helps pinpoint the triggers.
Curating Positive Consumables
- Media Choices: Be selective about what you watch, read, or listen to. Opt for content that motivates and uplifts rather than feeds doubt.
- Daily Affirmations: Start or end your day with positive affirmations. Remind yourself of your strengths and capabilities. These simple statements can reshape your mindset over time.
- Gratitude Practice: Cultivate gratitude. Regularly acknowledging the positive aspects of your life can shift your focus from what’s lacking to what’s abundant.
Embracing Growth With Every Obstacle
- Mindset Shift: Instead of seeing challenges as setbacks, reframe them as opportunities to learn and grow. This mental shift transforms obstacles into stepping stones.
- Reflection: Reflect on past challenges and how you overcame them. Recognize your resilience and use it as a reminder that you can overcome future obstacles.
- Continuous Learning: Adopt a mindset of constant learning. Every challenge brings lessons. Seek knowledge and insights, not just in success but also in moments of difficulty.
Separating Personal Identity From Business
- Define Personal Values: Clearly articulate your values and principles. Understanding what truly matters to you beyond business success establishes a solid foundation for personal identity.
- Business as an Extension: View your business as an extension of your goals rather than a definition of your worth. This perspective allows you to detach emotionally from business outcomes.
- Celebrate Personal Growth: Acknowledge and celebrate personal growth and achievements outside of business. This reinforces the idea that your identity is multifaceted and not solely determined by professional success.
My goal is to help people find clarity in their wants, unshakable confidence in who they are, and the courage to stay true to both.